How often do you use these Empath tips in troubleshooting?
Never:  Never use it: 
Try:  Might try it.
Use:  Use it as needed
Tell: Tell it to people who need to think about troubleshooting

Do you need to get fired-up again?  How did you get fired-up before?

What to other people expect you to do?  Why don't you want to do it?

What do you say to other people when they need to bounce-back?

Are you confusing faulting with fixing?

One way to win is to make it okay to lose.