Self-Growth 3: Deciding about Indecision
Scene: the Head Office. The Vulcan and the Engineer sit at small desks. The Un lounges on a beanbag chair. The Canter and the Shudoff sit properly erect in straight-backed chairs. Others lounge in comfortable chairs. The Storyboarder toys with a felt-tipped marker.
Networker: In our last episode, we decided that the main obstacle to guided self-growth is indecision.
Un: And that the key to that gate lies in decision.
Canter: We can't help people that way. They can't decide.
Shudoff: If they can’t decide, they should get somebody to decide for them.
Vulcan: That depends on our interpretation of the expression "guided self-growth."
Owl: Who? Who is guiding?
Un: Self-growth is self-guided. Self-directed.
Shudoff: They should get an expert to tell them what to do.
Vulcan: They will have to choose the expert. They cannot escape from choice.
Hunter: They will have to choose the goal. No Hunter hunts an expert's goal.
Un: Except the expert.
Canter: People can't choose. They don't know where to start.
Engineer: They can start by making a list of the best options.
Canter: You can't call that choosing. It is just listing.
Vulcan: It is choosing. They choose to make a list. They choose what to put on it.
Un: They choose what to leave off.
Whys Guy: And they can ask themselves why they chose the way they did.
Explorer: They can learn about themselves by watching what they do.
Vulcan: They can ask themselves what criteria they are using to choose.
Engineer: They can write the criteria next to the choices.
Vulcan: They can decide which criteria are most important.
Shudoff: They should choose the option that best suits what they want.
Un: Or they can choose the option that suits them least. Choose that to discard.
Canter: They can't get much help out of that unless there are only two options.
Un: Or unless they are willing to do it more than once.
Canter: But suppose they get it down to three good options. They can't decide among options if they are equally good.
Un: Only the Canters can see gloom in the face of three good options. Just flip a coin.
Whys Guys: If people don't want to flip a coin, they can ask themselves why.
Explorer: They may find something in the answer to that question.
Shudoff: They should not flip a coin. They will be coin-guided, not self-guided.
Vulcan: Not at all. They will still have to decide whether to follow the coin.
Canter: Suppose they still can't choose.
Vulcan: They can choose to wait.
Networker: They also choose who only choose to wait.
Engineer: They can put their list on the refrigerator door. It will spark their thinking.
Hunter: Until they are ready to act.
Silence
The Canter and the Can