How well do these Empath tips fit your about independence?
Never:  Never use it: 
Try:  Might try it.
Use:  Use it as needed
Tell: Tell it to people who need it

Everybody's job is nobody's job.

Explanations don't fix things. They help you feel better at not fixing things.

Never buy the other fellow’s deal.

Go ahead and curse the darkness.  Then you’ll feel better lighting that candle. 

Nobody else can go there for you.  You gotta go there by yourself.

It is enough to be responsible for yourself.

You've got to cross that lonesome valley.  You've got to cross it by yourself.  Nobody else can cross it for you.  You've got to cross it by yourself.    

The function of guilt is to relieve you of responsibility.

And only the Master shall praise us, and only the Master shall blame.